Advanced Care Planning

Caring for the Dead

Most people are in a state of shock after a loved one dies. Making even simple decisions can seem overwhelming. A DeathCare practitioner becomes a valuable liaison when funeral choices and decisions must be made. Whether a funeral takes place in a religious setting, funeral home, or in a private home, if invited to assist, we will be present supporting your family, helping you through any decision-making challenges. If requested, she will assist with filling out paperwork and clarifying laws regarding home funerals and cremation. We will listen to your needs with an open heart and mind and be present to facilitate compassionate communication between family members so that everyone’s needs are heard and met in a loving way.

A death midwife is there as a relaxed presence of calm for the family and the loved one who is in, or who may be, 'laboring' in the dying process.  A death midwife may attend to spiritual and ceremonial needs as requested.

End of Life Care study references (books, guidebooks, manuals and webinars): Soul Midwives Handbook (The Holistic & Spiritual Care of the Dying) - Felicity Warner, Death and Dying - Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Dying Consciously - The Institute of Energy Medicine, Beyond Hospice (Roles in Death Midwifery) - CINDEA, 30-Day Death Doula Training Primer - Deanna Cochran, Caring for the Dying (The Doula approach to a meaningful death) - Henry Fersko-Weis (founder of the first End-of-Life Doula program in the U.S.), Dying Matters - The Natural Death Care Centre, Easy Death - Adi Da Samraj, Passing Through the Hands - Sandra Belk and Sandy Booth. Dying, A Transition - Monika Renz. My skill and knowledge-base is an ongoing.

The 12 Principles of Soul Midwifery By Felicity Warner

  1. To work as non-medical holistic companions who guide and support a dying person in order to facilitate a gentle and tranquil death.

  2. To support and recognize the individual needs of the dying person and ensure they feel loved and supported.

  3. To create and hold a sacred and healing space for the dying person (whether in a hospital, a hospice or at home).

  4. To respect and honour a dying person’s religious/spiritual or atheist/agnostic beliefs and practices.

  5. To work as non-denominational, multi-faith practitioners who honour the dying person’s beliefs about life, death or the afterlife.

  6. To listen, provide gentle therapeutic techniques, and ensure compassionate care at all times.

  7. To ‘serve’ our friend; not aim to ‘fix’ or ‘rescue’.

  8. To give healing, using sound, touch, colour, scented oils or other gentle techniques to alleviate pain and anxiety.

  9. To keep a loving vigil.

  10. To work holistically with the spirit and soul of our friends at all levels and stages of transition.

  11. To support families and their loved ones, giving loving care with a human touch

  12. To provide comfort, continuous support and reassurance in helping a dying person to experience the death he or she wants.

As a DeathCare Practitioner &  Life-Transitions Guide, I have accredited certificates in End of Life Care, Energy Medicine, Spirituality Health and Healing, Aromatherapy in Palliative Care and several years of in-depth studies of the philosophies and practices of a Death Doula and am a certified, Level II Reiki practitioner. I've accumulated 10 years of Administration experience and I'm employed as a part-time, Funeral Services/Staff Assistant and serve as an 11th-Hour volunteer with Hospice. I live in sunny Florida with my two youngest children.